In life, most of us have been faced with rejections here and there in form of “No’s”. It can come from expecting an admission, job, relationship, etc.

I want to focus on the relationship kind of no some get especially a believer who has trusted God for direction, having believed that he was sent by God and yet heard a no from the other person. This can happen to either a sister or a brother.

It can be devastating and a time to question God, some can even question themselves which is even better than questioning the person who rejected them, those who do that has gone to the extreme, constantly being on the other’s neck to rain threats because you feel they need to hear the God you heard not knowing we are humans made to choose also.

Now what do you do after all getting such!


The first problem you can give yourself is to create another answer from what you have heard just to suit your heart. Do not assume for people that they don’t know what they are saying, take it as it is, especially if it has come again and again. The Bible said “the truth shall set you free”, accept such answer as the beginning of your freedom from what you thought could have been the best for you(but doesn’t necessarily mean he or she won’t be best for another).

The steps of the righteous are ordered just as the Bible said, it critically means to me that there is a spirit man which is the Trinity that we should follow who is taking us to a destination. For example, a junction of a road, yes that’s the destination but he sees ahead of you as you follow, he is allowed to pause which means you pause with him, he can take a turn to teach you some lessons you will need at the junction for your survival. He didn’t say he will take you straight as the road seems to you, he just says he will order you rightly, trust him and follow on!


Relax! It’s not the time to tell every one you think can be of help because it’s not even true. It’s normal for many thoughts to run through your mind, do not start to explain to so many people, or share your visions and why it should not be rejected, you might just become more confused, getting false hope from some or even plantings of hatred towards the other from some. They were not there when you heard God, they can’t explain what your vision meant.


At this time, even if I said do not talk to everyone, you need someone too. Do not try to solve it on your own , you’ll have so many questions even the person might not have answers to but a direction is given. You need a God sent to help your emotions to be stable enough to pray again and counselling might be needed in some cases.


Who gave you the testimony, God right? I know cases where people had gone back to God and God worked òn the person, well, you have to be sure you are hearing “wait” like I said, your steps are ordered by God, not your emotions. If you don’t hear “wait” ,pls move on so you don’t wait till you get IV and start another session of wailing.

There are steps to getting back on your feet, it’s firstly, knowing the truth, accepting it, and moving on. But if you hang on just knowing and not accepting, you delay what’s coming ahead of you. That’s not God’s work to do, it’s yours.

Take over the matter to God and ask him what next. Be opened to God at this time, do not delay at this prayer point “Why God, didn’t I hear you well?” Take away the idol from your heart and ONLY is will be established should be the prayers on your lips. As much as it’s difficult, it’s an heart cry God won’t despise.


Brother/ sister, it’s not the time to form maturity and still act like friends. You need your space and time with God. You won’t want circumstances to mess with your head again and again.

The devil is smart people. It’s not malice, it’s redirecting your steps and protecting your spiritual antenna and emotions, if not you will see more positive signs that might tender towards you questioning the answer you got and breeds false hope for you or even negative signs that can foster hatred. Get closure and settle with God first. Friendship can come later with time.


It’s not the time to feel too depressed to stop being the best in what you know how to do best. Do not be idle to entertain thoughts that can cause more depression. Get busy for God and humanity.


Do not be discouraged, despite it all, God still speaks. Don’t give up on God no matter the counts of No’s. There is always a waiting period for everyone.

If you do not have a story, you won’t have a testimony to tell. It’s a phase for his glory. I will also love to interview juicy ones that will be blessed by this by someone who might be in this case because God is settling you soon to encourage others. It’s sweet story people pay more attention to you know. Stay lifted in Christ.

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Author: Faith Adegboye

ADEGBOYE FAITH is a Spirit-filled daughter of God who is passionate about a consistent personal relationship with the Father. She is a Medical Laboratory Scientist, budding photographer, designer, speaker, blogger, singer and counselor. She is also the originator of https://faithfulwrites.com, which covers all aspects of spirituality, health, etc generally with the goal of insuring her corner. She's an award winning writer; winning the 3rd place position at Deraconteur's Writers Club writing course (1.0)


  1. It feels great to hear from you again. I enjoyed every bit of the writeup. I’m only but encouraged after reading up. More grace Faithfulwrites!

  2. You go back to the same God who directed you.he is not an author of confusion…he will speak expressly. He said “I am the lord I Change not”

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